How can you build your self-confidence and set yourself up to win right now?
Make the best of what you desire and deserve.
First, let's talk about self-confidence which a lot of people ask me when they hire me as their coach or whether I'm speaking at virtual events or live events or doing my group training all around the world.
While self-confidence is based more on the external measures of success and value, self-esteem focuses on its internal measures.
Self-esteem is one's overall sense of his own value or worth. It is your attitude towards yourself.
Research findings report that one's self-esteem and psychological beliefs affect his goals and commitment towards them.
Psychology experts and researchers concluded that one can be confident in a certain area yet may lack an overall view of his or her own value.
One of the things people ask me about all the time is, “Noah, how'd you get so confident? How can I build my self-confidence?”
Here’s a little secret that I don't tell a lot of people.
I'm not a naturally confident person. I wasn't born with oozing self-esteem.
In fact, when I was growing up as a kid, I was painfully shy. I had coke bottle glasses. I had a face full of acne and I didn't have shoulder-length hair, but shoulder-width hair. I had a big Afro back in the '70s and '80s.
I had no self-confidence at all. I had often joked that I didn't have the fear of rejection, I had the certainty of rejection.
Maybe, you're like me and had low self-esteem or low self-confidence.
This is something that is definitely not natural for me. It's something I’ve had to work on for years and years. I didn't believe in myself and I didn't trust myself.
We all know that it takes a lot of effort and courage to believe in oneself.
News reports reveal an inflated growth of depression and suicide cases which created a global impact.
Most women show evidence of bulimic symptoms because of their insecurities, starving themselves to achieve unrealistic model proportions while some undergo surgery for enhancement.
They develop eating disorders later on. Students who struggle with their school performance were reported to have severe anxieties.
Those who were bullied and have experienced sexual abuse were prone to a sudden change of personality through their course of life and they suffer from depression.
Although interventions do help a lot in the process, we’ll be able to save and rescue more lives with simple preventive measures.
We can't blame it all on someone if he becomes delinquent and defensive with his actions after all the experiences and relationships he had in the past.
Nevertheless, what we can do is to take action against bullying, encourage healthy discussions and promote self-awareness.
Let me save you some time, effort, and maybe even some money because I know personally that not having that level of self-esteem certainly has cost me millions and millions of dollars over the years.
Here are three proven tips to help you deal with self-esteem and press you towards victory:
When an individual sets his priorities, he gives time, effort and really focuses on that matter.
Our society plays a big role in what we perceive as valuable for us.
There are differences in people's scale of priorities. Factors affect how they measure the level of importance.
People take each relationship of great value, may it be with family, friends, or significant other.
Students may focus more on their grades and scores because of academic endeavors.
Someone who is trying to get a promotion will dwell more on his job performance.
A public person may deal more with his physical attractiveness.
When you set your priorities, you're setting yourself to things you want to achieve.
Each achievement will contribute to a desirable outcome you want to gain in the future.
So if you set yourself at boosting your self-esteem, what could possibly go wrong?
It will all start within yourself and your decision to give yourself value. When you know and take self-confidence as a priority, everything else will follow.
Deciding to become confident does not equate to becoming perfect in all ways, but simply believing that you can do things despite all your fears and imperfection.
How will you excel in your school? How will you overcome your antisocial behavior and start making friends? How will you get good outcomes?
You just have to decide and know that it is really important to be confident. It is important to believe in yourself.
An indicator of self-confidence is being able to trust yourself. It is when you are able to trust your own instincts and realize that you can trust your own decisions, trust what you’re feeling inside.
Growing up, I didn't do that. I listened to everyone outside of me but I never really listened to myself and that was a big problem.
It got me into a lot of trouble and it really cost me a lot of money and opportunity over the years.
Now that we know what are the benefits we can get by simply being confident and how it can predict our life be in the future.
We have to understand the problem and situation were facing off, to risk ourselves at any cost, to study how we're going to succeed in our problem.
Remember that the first step to everything is to simply decide that it's very important.
If something is important to you, you'll take action to make things happen. Being in control gives you the power and freedom to navigate your life in the right direction.
A pattern of movement shows persistence in achieving a positive result.
This is something that I talk about in my books and online programs like Power Habits® - The New Science for Making Success Automatic.
So, what are some of the Power Habits®?
One of them is my teaching of Afformations®. If you go to afformations.com, you can learn more about my Afformations® method that's taking your internal negative beliefs and really flipping them into empowering or positive beliefs.
You can also get the book at powerhabitsbook.com or you can just visit the website and watch a free training that I did on how you can develop the millionaire habits of the rich and famous.
While what you do creates a great impact, consistent actions are of great importance, too.
Parents may experience stress in juggling time and helping their children with their studies. But when they start to introduce the habit of doing educational activities with their children at an early age, study time with them will be easier.
Adolescents wanted to be included in a circle and face challenges with social interactions.
An adolescent can start by understanding and listening to his own feelings and encourage himself to share his true self with a peer.
You may really want to develop chosen habits every day like the following:
Remember to be firm with your objective so you can focus on a specific task.
It will be hard on the first few tries but you'll be surprised how you've grown. Execute with growth and happiness in mind, effects will come afterward. Try approving yourself while trusting the process you are in.
They say, "You are what you think."
What's inside your mind influences how you act. You are perceived based on your behavior. It's a causal relationship, after all.
Now, think about a person who's not confident.
Think about what they would look like. What would they sound like? What would they move like?
You’d probably realize that they'd be sort of slumped over. Their shoulders would be slumping forward, they might not look people in the eye. They would look down a lot.
That was me, that was how I went through most of my life when I was growing up. It took me a long time to realize that I’ve got to put my shoulders back. I’ve got to look people in the eye. I’ve got to just say what I mean.
There’s an old saying, “Say what you mean and mean what you say.”
It took me a long time to figure that one out. I'll tell you that and those little habits every day putting your shoulders back and taking a deep breath.
When somebody asks you a question, maybe you don't know the answer yet.
Take a deep breath, go and say, “That's a good question. I'm not sure. Let me find out let me get back to you on that one.”
You don't have to answer right away just because somebody is demanding it of you.
You have permission to check in with yourself and make sure it's something that you really want to do and want to move forward on.
Also, notice that a lot of our communication these days is done virtually. A lot of people are meeting instead of face to face or instead of going into your work environment perhaps your office, you're meeting on Zoom.
If you're meeting virtually, make sure that you're looking right into the camera whether it's on your phone or your laptop.
Make sure you're looking right into that camera. A mistake that people make oftentimes is they'll look over here you know looking at the person that they're talking to.
And it's sort of natural to do that right but actually, the truth is you want to look right at the camera.
What I do is I look at the person out of the corner of my eye. I'm looking at my own screen so I can see myself over here.
But I am looking right at you and that makes the person on the other end and the receiving end feel a lot more comfortable because you look a lot more confident when you go like this.
Even though you're looking at the person, you're actually not. They don't feel you're looking at them because they don't get that.
Anyway, just use these little tips and let me know what you think of these tips.
Individuals dwell with self-esteem problems every now and then. We badly wanted to be recognized, accepted and appreciated.
We look for support, crave attention. As we go further in finding our place to be socially approved, we lose our ways. We allow individuals to abuse us.
We are now left with the consequences because we care so much about people's opinions than our own ability.
Some become socially awkward, some result in aggression.
How can we highly regard ourselves if we are looking at the wrong concept of self-esteem?
When you love yourself, you embrace your personality. You change your unruly behaviors. You care less about likes and ratings.
So, if you think of yourself worthy enough then you'll be able to understand that society has standards beyond compare. People are predicted to follow them.
But, beauty is subjective, and not all things are supposed to look pretty. We are only subjected to look, feel, and act like humans.
Keep a journal. Review what you've done in the past years. Look at the relationships you've been with. We never know what's ahead of us, we don't hold an accurate answer.
Failure will be present and it measures how persevering and true we are to our goal.
Self-acknowledgment leads to learning self-respect. Allow yourself to feel lovable and capable.
After all, it is not what we can't do that brings us fear, what frightens us the most is how powerful we can be beyond measures.
Let your light shine.
What are you going to do over the next 30 days for you to set yourself up for success and for you to set yourself up for a new opportunity?
We just left the year behind, but did we really leave it behind? A lot of people didn’t. There is so much fear, uncertainty, pain, and suffering that build up worldwide during the pandemic and it’s not over yet. People can't feel the perfect way to live due to the pandemic, maybe we can see the light at the end of the tunnel, I think we can.
There are also people who have unprecedented growth, evolution, expansion from the last year. I’m one of those people because as I saw the pandemic unfolded, I realized that this represented unprecedented opportunity:
What are your goals going into this new year? Because a lot of people are setting new year's resolutions. Study shows that most new year's resolutions are broken above January 12, it didn't last too long. Started perfect confidence to create an amazing lifestyle, but the dream to achieve it didn't happen.
The point is, I want you to give you a different way to look at this whole topic of new year's resolutions and I want to talk about something specifically and that is a question that I want you to ask yourself. What do I need to let go in order to make this year the year that I want it to be?
You need to go after your goals but at the same time you're going after your goals, many people are driving down the road of life with one foot on the brake. You have one foot on the gas which is driving you towards what you want but you also have another foot on the brake which is holding you back from getting the things that you want. It may be personal goals, take a step to unlock the potential in learning to grow from your expertise. It's hard when people don't understand the habit they have and sometimes you're a boss, sometimes you want to write a blog, the goal is to fill the table with a unique success and luck for the future.
It is important to set your target, connect your purpose to improve your influence to the community. set your strategy to increase professional capabilities in order to promote the future with no hustle. A person should notice simple existing negative thinking in a team to let go of specific issues needed to be addressed.
I’ll give you an example, I was talking to my parents and they told me that they’ve watched a great movie that they enjoy watching. I asked what was it? They say Hollywoodland. I say that’s a great movie, Ben Affleck and Adrien Brody. She said no, it’s Adan Brody. I said no it’s Adrien Brody the actors name is Adrien Brody, I even spelled it out. We’re arguing there, they’re arguing with me. It’s about 10 minutes later, they called me back and she said you know what? You’re right it is Adrien Brody.
What's the point of the story? What is it to you? The point is I learned that in my entire life, I've been doubting myself because that's what I grew up with, an argumentative family. For years, for almost all of my life, I prefer to doubt myself. I realized that the number one thing that I want to let go this year is doubting myself. Spend social activities in a circle to gain tips on how to corporate respect, choice, and service to be better in the field of entrepreneur.
Doubting myself has cost me probably millions of dollars just doubting myself and not trusting my intuition, listening to the wrong people, what does this mean for you? What is the one thing that you’re going to let go right now in the next 21 days? Why do I keep telling in 21 days? Because study shows that it takes 21 days to change a habit, it takes 90 days to really install that habit.
There is help available for you. Whatever you do, I want you to realize that there is help available for you. I wished I had known this many years ago when I was struggling to get my business going, or self-esteem which I haven't had any. Make sure to get yourself the help that you deserve so you can have the time, the energy, relationships and money that you really deserve.
Speaking and asking questions is free, spend time to develop a path to your desired freelance job. Don't be afraid to ask advice from a coach, ask for the services offered. Speak and reach to remote communities, let your position offer promotion to the local community. Offer charity for the need, offer education that creates people to share your love, goals, values to people. By offering your service, you're building a family to grow like you did.
Are you trying visualization right now? Are you visualizing your goals and not getting the results that you really want? Do you want to learn different techniques to achieve powerful visualization? Spend time in creating vision, free yourself from negative things, and bring your attention to the success of your goals. Don't compare your achievement to others, days and night may be hard, but set your expectancy high and scatter the power of visualization.
Visualization is the practice of visualizing in your mind and using your imagination to project forward in time of the things that you want. By the use of visualization, people will start to imagine success and achieve a future with positive outcomes. One of the things that I work with my 30k Income Secrets and my Elite Inner Circle clients is this process of what I call, going from your CPR to your NDR.
Do you want to have more time, more energy, better relationships, and more money? Do you want to experience your daily life as bright as morning and feel complete from day to day? One of the things that I teach is 30K Income Secrets Elite and Inner Circle which are both coaching products of Noah is to practice writing down the things that you want. Write that down, get very clear on your goals, get very clear on what it is that you want. Feed the subconscious with positive visualization that may result in motivation on performing the dreams you visualize.
The goal is, I want to make 30,000 in my online business. Now with the visualization, just picture the image in your mind. imagine yourself growing old, arms and hands are tired, drinking coffee while thinking about the photograph of your family and friends. Imagine that you're finally experiencing living a vivid life as you aged, set that positive affirmation you've learned and focus on meditation.
Visualize it, you're obviously not doing something right because you're not visualizing it well enough that's why you don't have it right now. Visualize it, put some energy, put emotion into it. Avoid that negative feeling, exercise your brain to gain positive development that will guide you to create strong sensation and improve visualization.
It's actually very simple, the reason that's never going to work is because they never told you how to actually get what you want. there's something in between your CPR and your NDR, there's actually something between it and it's what I call a gap. There's a gap between where you are and where you want to be. If there wasn't a gap then you'd already be there wouldn't you?
What I've been teaching my coaching clients for over two decades is that most human beings are unknowingly, unconsciously, and unwittingly driving down the road of life with one foot on the brake and if you're driving down the road of life with one foot on the brake, how long is going to take you to get to your destination? it's going to take you a long time, in fact you might never even get there. life isn't a marathon, but remember that your office wouldn't pay your lifetime bills. Plot your life and select positive people, you'll notice super positive dashboard plans ahead of you.
It's quite a dream to spend your excess time with family without worrying about money. Remember I want to remind you that there's nothing actually wrong with visualization, I think it's great that you are visualizing and filling in your body but if you don't have the steps and if you have the three gaps, nothing will manifest. The different types of category are ready to be on fields of motions, the visions and goals should be visible in the eyes of the public, a vision needs to be supported and should serve as a break for you.
Live life with a direction, sounds easy to do but loud enough to visualize the hard process to achieve the positive affirmations you've dreamt about. Being successful doesn't happen in a blink of an eye, look at the eyes of the athletes, they train during spring, summer, fall, and winter to achieve that visualization of success. In times of precipitation, achieving success easily fades. However, the ability to target a wide range of imagery and visualization offers representation of completed career and elevation of excitement powers your actions.
- That means I don't know what to do.
- I’m not sure what to do to actually reach my NDR
- I don't know how to get there maybe.
- I know what to do but i don't have the right tools.
- I don't really know how to get there.
- I probably can't even do it anyway so why bother.
- You know what I think I'll just go watch some T.V.
A Belief Gap is the thing about your head dressed, it says I can't do it because. The statement that would harness you from your cell and sentence you with a negative life.
Previous moments that map your fears from your decisions, achieving those maximum mistakes that moved your sensations to the right position. It only takes a couple of pieces of advice to make your sight right, it may not release perfectly but it can change poor decisions in life to start wearing positive visualizations.
People learned that no matter what season or temperature a day is, visualization of our goals estimates our presentation that should result with a provisional step from the accumulated technique from the power of visualization. Create the positive dashboards you want to plant, fill your desk with powerful motivation and most importantly, picture the trends that level up the minimum trend to a maximum trend.
That's what millions of people are suffering from, poisoning and repeating mistakes that increase fear be trained. Do you have one of those gaps, do you have a knowledge gap, skills gap, and belief gap. What you really need is to have what we call the three pillars of transformation, that's what's going to get you from where you are to where you want to be. Keep your souls and brains motivated to earn chances that involve the benefits of achieving your goals.
- You need to know what to do.
- You need to know how to do it.
- You actually need someone in your corner believing in you before you believe in yourself.
Get yourself a confident team and be interactive, explore specific exercises to grow, be united with success and walk relaxed and repeat the vision you pictures. That's one of the biggest things that I do for my clients and one of the biggest reasons that my clients have made over 2.7 billion dollars since 1997 is because I am the person in your corner believing in you before you even believe in yourself. The consistent training, stronger mental, and effective visualizations will be leading us with a confident sound of success and positive affirmations.
According to a data, the average mortality rates of birth and death is caused by increasing changes that occur overtime. To avoid countless deaths, people should aim on the improvement of the resources. Not only would this help us achieve the principles of our goals, this would also activate the benefit for the people. Overdose your minutes for a period of time with positive visualization in achieving the vision of your soul.
The annual patterns people need to include to properly focus on the positive outcome is to set goals based on what you really want to achieve and you'll finish the vision on perfect timing.
People have the visualizations tool to manifest an individual to hear examples of visions, creative visions that would instantly keep them running and aim for winning that goal of success. the detailed scientific method on how visualization manifests on people can be found in different software such as windows explorer.
The purpose of envisioning positive outcomes is to know the impact of Imagining and picturing change for the environment including the people itself. Visualization of change that would create effective and relative programs to map out plan of performance and recommendation needed to manifest. The list of feelings I picture during a competition like business, creates an adjusted feeling of nervousness. Visual increases the ideal motion needed to manifest to be confidently focused on your personal senses.
Would you like to set yourself up for success this year? Reach your specific goals in life and achieve success on time? Would you like to make it easy for yourself rather than working so hard and not seeing the results you want? The plan to accomplish a task with positive achievement and positive performance to progress in your personal life? After helping my coaching clients at over 2.7 billion dollars over the last two decades, I've learned a thing or two about setting yourself up for success.
You need to follow these simple but very powerful steps to set yourself up for success and improve the ability to focus on the positive outcome. No matter what you're doing, setting yourself up for success means:
Healthy decisions in life is attainable when people manifest effective and positive mindset which may ensure living a freedom lifestyle, where you have:
Let me ask you this question, Would you get in your car, drive around in circles and then come back home without going anywhere? No one would ever do that and yet you know what people are doing with their lives. They're just driving around in circles, they say I don't really know where I want to go. In order to attain realistic and successful direction, people are required to set lifetime goals and effort to manifest a positive result.
An individual measures things based on the ability to control what's ahead. The problem is, people don't measure the process of planning to have an effective career. People should focus on the relevant impact of learning from experience and practice a habit to pursue a career with a positive impact.
It's really hard to get there isn't it? it's hard to know, it's hard to get where you're going if you don't know where you're going. Pay attention and reflect about your goal objectives, create a smart plan to achieve satisfaction. Failure doesn't mean that your goals aren't achievable, failure helps you to gain potential solutions to create strategy.
Identify your pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, everybody wants more time, more energy, better relationships, more money, but what does that really look like to you? What's motivating you to stick on your goals and achieve that success?
What do you plan to achieve? Set your goal as a motivation to create your future with a positive outcome. It doesn't matter what goals you want to achieve in life, but you've got to identify what it is.
Where are you right now in relation to where you want to be? Where did your decisions brought you now? Did that decision save you from potential damage? or did it provide you with the ability to identify your CPR.
CPR stands for your current perceived reality
The thing is, you have a lot of time and the ability to attain that goal but you're not taking steps to start in the first place. I call that getting rid of your head trash but first you have to identify what your head trash is.
Where are you right now in relation to where you want to be? Are you pursuing the goals you set? Are you trying to improve your writing skills? What are the strategies you have to approach those goals you set? You might say one from this list:
But you don't know where to start, that's the number one thing that people say to me when they hire me and when they work with me in my group coaching 30k income secrets or one-on-one in my elite inner circle. You can start to do that right now, confidence with a proper behavior will help to pursue and attain ambitious dreams.
What's the gap between where you are and where you want to be your pot of gold at the end of the rainbow? what's the strategies that you pay attention to? Did it result in positive and effective terms? If there wasn't a gap then you'd already be there and if you're not there, meaning there has to be a gap. That just makes logical sense doesn't it?
Achieving goals are becoming difficult from day to day, people feel short and as a result, people forget the goals they set. According to psychology, people need a break too and failure to do so may lead to negative mental health and behavior. Focus on creating a positive mindset to create a successful career. The number one thing that I see holding people back from the goal is:
An attainment of an individual doesn't define how short you are, understanding the suggested values and feedback from successful people may create an easier guide to accomplish the challenging part of achieving the goals you set. People should be oriented on which types of abilities needed to be approached by the individual to attain the efficacy of the set goal.
You have to take action, that's actually the fourth step, the bonus step. You have to start to take action to overcome the gaps, learn to take action based on the experiences you have. Here's the thing, remember that you can't just believe it to achieve it, you have to take action.
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