How can you build your self-confidence and set yourself up to win right now?
Make the best of what you desire and deserve.
First, let's talk about self-confidence which a lot of people ask me when they hire me as their coach or whether I'm speaking at virtual events or live events or doing my group training all around the world.
While self-confidence is based more on the external measures of success and value, self-esteem focuses on its internal measures.
Self-esteem is one's overall sense of his own value or worth. It is your attitude towards yourself.
Research findings report that one's self-esteem and psychological beliefs affect his goals and commitment towards them.
Psychology experts and researchers concluded that one can be confident in a certain area yet may lack an overall view of his or her own value.
One of the things people ask me about all the time is, “Noah, how'd you get so confident? How can I build my self-confidence?”
Here’s a little secret that I don't tell a lot of people.
I'm not a naturally confident person. I wasn't born with oozing self-esteem.
In fact, when I was growing up as a kid, I was painfully shy. I had coke bottle glasses. I had a face full of acne and I didn't have shoulder-length hair, but shoulder-width hair. I had a big Afro back in the '70s and '80s.
I had no self-confidence at all. I had often joked that I didn't have the fear of rejection, I had the certainty of rejection.
Maybe, you're like me and had low self-esteem or low self-confidence.
This is something that is definitely not natural for me. It's something I’ve had to work on for years and years. I didn't believe in myself and I didn't trust myself.
We all know that it takes a lot of effort and courage to believe in oneself.
News reports reveal an inflated growth of depression and suicide cases which created a global impact.
Most women show evidence of bulimic symptoms because of their insecurities, starving themselves to achieve unrealistic model proportions while some undergo surgery for enhancement.
They develop eating disorders later on. Students who struggle with their school performance were reported to have severe anxieties.
Those who were bullied and have experienced sexual abuse were prone to a sudden change of personality through their course of life and they suffer from depression.
Although interventions do help a lot in the process, we’ll be able to save and rescue more lives with simple preventive measures.
We can't blame it all on someone if he becomes delinquent and defensive with his actions after all the experiences and relationships he had in the past.
Nevertheless, what we can do is to take action against bullying, encourage healthy discussions and promote self-awareness.
Let me save you some time, effort, and maybe even some money because I know personally that not having that level of self-esteem certainly has cost me millions and millions of dollars over the years.
Here are three proven tips to help you deal with self-esteem and press you towards victory:
When an individual sets his priorities, he gives time, effort and really focuses on that matter.
Our society plays a big role in what we perceive as valuable for us.
There are differences in people's scale of priorities. Factors affect how they measure the level of importance.
People take each relationship of great value, may it be with family, friends, or significant other.
Students may focus more on their grades and scores because of academic endeavors.
Someone who is trying to get a promotion will dwell more on his job performance.
A public person may deal more with his physical attractiveness.
When you set your priorities, you're setting yourself to things you want to achieve.
Each achievement will contribute to a desirable outcome you want to gain in the future.
So if you set yourself at boosting your self-esteem, what could possibly go wrong?
It will all start within yourself and your decision to give yourself value. When you know and take self-confidence as a priority, everything else will follow.
Deciding to become confident does not equate to becoming perfect in all ways, but simply believing that you can do things despite all your fears and imperfection.
How will you excel in your school? How will you overcome your antisocial behavior and start making friends? How will you get good outcomes?
You just have to decide and know that it is really important to be confident. It is important to believe in yourself.
An indicator of self-confidence is being able to trust yourself. It is when you are able to trust your own instincts and realize that you can trust your own decisions, trust what you’re feeling inside.
Growing up, I didn't do that. I listened to everyone outside of me but I never really listened to myself and that was a big problem.
It got me into a lot of trouble and it really cost me a lot of money and opportunity over the years.
Now that we know what are the benefits we can get by simply being confident and how it can predict our life be in the future.
We have to understand the problem and situation were facing off, to risk ourselves at any cost, to study how we're going to succeed in our problem.
Remember that the first step to everything is to simply decide that it's very important.
If something is important to you, you'll take action to make things happen. Being in control gives you the power and freedom to navigate your life in the right direction.
A pattern of movement shows persistence in achieving a positive result.
This is something that I talk about in my books and online programs like Power Habits® - The New Science for Making Success Automatic.
So, what are some of the Power Habits®?
One of them is my teaching of Afformations®. If you go to afformations.com, you can learn more about my Afformations® method that's taking your internal negative beliefs and really flipping them into empowering or positive beliefs.
You can also get the book at powerhabitsbook.com or you can just visit the website and watch a free training that I did on how you can develop the millionaire habits of the rich and famous.
While what you do creates a great impact, consistent actions are of great importance, too.
Parents may experience stress in juggling time and helping their children with their studies. But when they start to introduce the habit of doing educational activities with their children at an early age, study time with them will be easier.
Adolescents wanted to be included in a circle and face challenges with social interactions.
An adolescent can start by understanding and listening to his own feelings and encourage himself to share his true self with a peer.
You may really want to develop chosen habits every day like the following:
Remember to be firm with your objective so you can focus on a specific task.
It will be hard on the first few tries but you'll be surprised how you've grown. Execute with growth and happiness in mind, effects will come afterward. Try approving yourself while trusting the process you are in.
They say, "You are what you think."
What's inside your mind influences how you act. You are perceived based on your behavior. It's a causal relationship, after all.
Now, think about a person who's not confident.
Think about what they would look like. What would they sound like? What would they move like?
You’d probably realize that they'd be sort of slumped over. Their shoulders would be slumping forward, they might not look people in the eye. They would look down a lot.
That was me, that was how I went through most of my life when I was growing up. It took me a long time to realize that I’ve got to put my shoulders back. I’ve got to look people in the eye. I’ve got to just say what I mean.
There’s an old saying, “Say what you mean and mean what you say.”
It took me a long time to figure that one out. I'll tell you that and those little habits every day putting your shoulders back and taking a deep breath.
When somebody asks you a question, maybe you don't know the answer yet.
Take a deep breath, go and say, “That's a good question. I'm not sure. Let me find out let me get back to you on that one.”
You don't have to answer right away just because somebody is demanding it of you.
You have permission to check in with yourself and make sure it's something that you really want to do and want to move forward on.
Also, notice that a lot of our communication these days is done virtually. A lot of people are meeting instead of face to face or instead of going into your work environment perhaps your office, you're meeting on Zoom.
If you're meeting virtually, make sure that you're looking right into the camera whether it's on your phone or your laptop.
Make sure you're looking right into that camera. A mistake that people make oftentimes is they'll look over here you know looking at the person that they're talking to.
And it's sort of natural to do that right but actually, the truth is you want to look right at the camera.
What I do is I look at the person out of the corner of my eye. I'm looking at my own screen so I can see myself over here.
But I am looking right at you and that makes the person on the other end and the receiving end feel a lot more comfortable because you look a lot more confident when you go like this.
Even though you're looking at the person, you're actually not. They don't feel you're looking at them because they don't get that.
Anyway, just use these little tips and let me know what you think of these tips.
Individuals dwell with self-esteem problems every now and then. We badly wanted to be recognized, accepted and appreciated.
We look for support, crave attention. As we go further in finding our place to be socially approved, we lose our ways. We allow individuals to abuse us.
We are now left with the consequences because we care so much about people's opinions than our own ability.
Some become socially awkward, some result in aggression.
How can we highly regard ourselves if we are looking at the wrong concept of self-esteem?
When you love yourself, you embrace your personality. You change your unruly behaviors. You care less about likes and ratings.
So, if you think of yourself worthy enough then you'll be able to understand that society has standards beyond compare. People are predicted to follow them.
But, beauty is subjective, and not all things are supposed to look pretty. We are only subjected to look, feel, and act like humans.
Keep a journal. Review what you've done in the past years. Look at the relationships you've been with. We never know what's ahead of us, we don't hold an accurate answer.
Failure will be present and it measures how persevering and true we are to our goal.
Self-acknowledgment leads to learning self-respect. Allow yourself to feel lovable and capable.
After all, it is not what we can't do that brings us fear, what frightens us the most is how powerful we can be beyond measures.
Let your light shine.
The difference between business experts from newbies is their ability to position themselves as an interesting company with a unique brand. Basically, it is to be identified as a great discovery in the market.
Therefore, a good sales pitch may turn into a good destination.
Focusing on the decision to come forth based on the ability or potential to provide amazing services unlike anybody else awaits great opportunities.
Power positioning is vital in the industry, especially in the marketing niche. There's a lot of competition out there. Companies that strive for leads will do anything to bring sales. They are up for challenges and been developing strategies for years to stay on top.
So, whether you're selling a product or a service, you need to be an expert in presenting yourself as a valuable asset to the company for you to keep your clients coming.
If you're having a tough time getting through to your prospects and closing the deal, I am here to help you. I'm going to show you exactly how to set yourself up to win.
I'm going to give you my three best tips to set yourself up to win this year in your business, in your life, in your relationships, and in your finances.
Let's talk about setting yourself up to win and why it is important.
Well, it's just like building a house. If you're going to build a house, what do you need?
You need a strong foundation.
What a lot of entrepreneurs are doing right now today is they're running around slapping boards together hoping a house shows up, working really hard but not getting the results they want.
We don't want to do that because we all know the definition of insanity.
Insanity is doing the same things over and over again while expecting a different result. That’s never going to work.
Today, let me give you my top three tips on how to set yourself up to win big in the next 12 months.
This is what I call my Noah's ARC Method.
This is something we go over in great depth in my Power Habits 21-day Challenge.
The “A” in Noah's Arc stands for awareness. It is the most important step of transformation.
Awareness is the ability to identify oneself, your strengths and expertise. It is simply your values and what you can offer to your client. You have to know your unique selling proposition. You have to know what makes you stand out among the rest.
But, Information alone is not enough to create transformation.
You can go to YouTube and watch any video. There's wide coverage of information about the human species available for free on YouTube.
All you have to do is type in:
You can find all the answers to that on YouTube. But then, why isn't everyone rich, happy, and thin?
Why isn't everyone walking around with six-pack abs? Why doesn't everyone have a happy relationship? Why isn't everyone a millionaire?
It's because information alone does not create change.
What do you need to change? What do you need for you to have a transformation?
We don't want more information, what we want is transformation.
And friends, the most important step of transformation is awareness.
If you're not aware then you can't make changes.
It's exactly like you walk into a room that's totally dark and then someone comes in and says, “All right now, I want you to rearrange the furniture here in this room.”
And you're like, “Well I can't even see what I'm doing,” which they will respond to “Think positive, set your goals, and get motivated. Come on, you can do it if you can. If you can believe it, you can achieve it.”
Assume that you start walking around, bang your shins out and you hit your toe.
It's going to be very frustrating because you can’t see everything.
What I’ll do is come in and turn the light on then go.
My clients thank me all the time because of this. Not me talking but my clients being grateful because I showed them the light.
That's one of the reasons why we've helped people just like you to add multiple six, seven, and yes, even eight figures to their business. We review their framework, help them explore the possibilities, and offer powerful solutions.
Allow yourself to be viewed by your audience as one who's confident enough to show your list of accolades, or simply flex one's worth.
Routines are what you do every day that counts which means your role in doing your tasks starting today should be relevant to where you want to be.
You have to undergo the process, do startups, establish your skill set, and apply what you've learned every single day.
This only shows your respect and patience in achieving your goal.
You can have the best intentions in the world. You can believe it all day long. You can visualize all day long. You can even use affirmations or Afformations® all day long.
But if you don't have the right routines, then you're not going to get the results that you want.
What are you doing every day to move towards your goal? How do you secure your pot of gold at the end of the rainbow?
You have to do your job to present yourself as the best choice of all the options. Simple tasks that are intended to improve yourself will contribute to your future endeavors.
Imagine what routines you can do starting now.
You may work on your skills, read books and documents, attend a webinar, practice your interviews, create more projects, write an article or some stories, connect and do networking, improve your portfolio and earn credentials.
One of the things that I teach is called Power Habits®. It refers to activities and techniques which will keep you on track and focused on your growth.
You can actually get my free training on how to use my Power Habit system by visiting powerhabitsacademy.com.
You can find the Power Habits® of unconsciously successful people. That's where I am going to teach and give you the routines that will change your life.
Conversions are a marketing objective, the desired goal.
You've got to have the right offers, the right funnels, and the right traffic so you can turn a prospect into a potential buyer. These are the factors that affect your presence on the internet.
When you have the right conversions:
They find you. They like and trust you and eventually, they’ll buy from you.
Competitors are here and there and if you show up first in the search tab first, you can now expect customers and followers.
Yet, it's not about who came first because the client still wants to hear your story. They want to know what you can put on the table.
This is where you have to show up and communicate, present an undeniable package and prepare to answer difficult questions.
Communicating rather than just speaking to them helps them understand your intention and offer. Listening and figuring out what they actually need will also help you guide them to where they want to be.
What we like is for them to buy from you over and over and over again. Yet, objections should be taken as an opportunity to work on things you'll be needing to specialize in the coming days. A strategy may or may not be effective because a client differs from another.
I have programs and courses online established to meet your goals and customer's goals, too. These are programs that I built three, five, seven, and even ten years ago which are still making me money today, every single day like clockwork.
It is what we call having the seven-figure machine. Having a seven-figure machine means you are getting to either six or seven figures in your online business, getting to the 30k per month level as I teach in my 30k income secrets course.
The marketing world is really a tough job and getting closer to your dream means you have to mind your own attitude, act professional, follow the lead, focus on the goal, share what you can offer, but stand out in public.
As Dr. Nido Qubein, an expert on sales, says, "What really counts is not what you know or believe, but what your prospects think and feel."
You have to put yourself in your client’s shoes.
The proof of growing a company together with a hard-working and value-driven team is evident in our clients' testimonials.
The journey we shared in solving money and life problems, our multiple-figure businesses target, career management programs, hours of webinars we've been together, and gaining social media presence were all part of the process also became a life-changing stage in my life.
For them to include me in their personal lives, taking my advice, giving me the authority to maneuver their life by providing a framework and offering a solution, and treating me as part of their family talks more than the compensation I earn.
And yes, it is true that first impression really lasts. I have learned through experience that when you understand your client's value from the start, you are already in the position of winning.
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